There are a couple of things to avoid in teaching this
#1: Avoid condemnation of people who think having one glass
of wine on their anniversary is wrong. You may agree or disagree, but
condemnation has no place in the Christian life. (Romans 8:1)
Avoid pretending all Christians agree that all drinking is bad. It is likely
that you have a few in your group who have a six pack at home right now.
Some of them may have a drinking problem, while others do not. You may like
it or not. Lying about it doesn't help.
#3: Avoid the "ain't the
world awful, too bad that they are not wonderful like us" kind of talk.
#4: Spend more time talking about how you can help each other be obedient to
the obvious and plain warning against over drinking than you spend trying to
build up the case against the once a year glass of wine. If you spend too
much time attacking the once a year glass of wine, you may miss the
opportunity to help the person who wants to be helped to be obedient to what
the Bible says about drinking.
God bless you if you have some
people recently out of the pagan pool. Use this lesson to help them with a
problem in their life. That is what the bible is about- helping people.
What was the attitude in your home toward liquor as you were growing up?(2)
As we read this passage, I want half of you to look for the
appeal or benefit of liquor, while the other half looks for the costs of
What are some other benefits of drinking? (Things not
mentioned in this passage.) What attracts people to drink? Let's be honest
and fair. Obviously many people enjoy drinking. Why do people enjoy
What are the costs? What are the
down sides of drinking, according to this passage? Let's make a list.
In your experience, what are some other negatives of drinking?
are some other things spoken against in this passage?(4)
Is it drinking, or excess drinking that is warned against in this passage?
"Moderation in all things," someone has said. Is this a Christian motto?(5)
Look at verse 20. Is this a command against drinking too much?(6)
Who else are we not to spend too much time with?
Have any of you
been guilty of spending too much time with, "those who gorge
themselves on meat"?
Try to look into the mind of the
writer. Look at verse 29. What kind of experiences drove the writer to write
this kind of thing?
Have any of you had experience with a loved one
whose life was badly damaged by excessive drinking? Tell us their story.
What bad things can result from excessive drinking?
Why is drinking
so popular when it causes so much pain? What is the appeal?(7)
Look over verses 32ff. Have any of you been there? Has drinking cost you too
much in life? Can you tell us your story?
Why does the guy in verse
35 say, "Give me another drink"?
How does one get to this point?
What are the steps on the path to be coming an alcoholic or excessive
Where is the best exit on this path?
How could you
help a friend help a friend who was drinking too much?(8)
How much help is it so say, "You are sinning. You are drinking too much and
you just need to stop"?
What can we do to help?
thing with people who drink too much is a tendency to refuse to admit they
have a problem. Why is this?
How important is it that we admit we
have a problem?
Can we get better all by ourselves, or do we need to
go to someone else for help?(9)
Why is the
support of the group so important?
Do you think this is the kind of
group that could help an alcoholic get better?
I would like to ask
you to bow your heads. I know that sometimes drinking too much is a private
sin. I know that it could very well be that there are some in this room
whose lives are being damaged by drinking too much. You may not even be
willing to admit it. You may have a husband or son or wife who is drinking
too much. If it is a problem, I want to encourage you to get help. I want to
encourage you to tell someone. I want to encourage you to "admit you are
powerless and your life has become unmanageable.(10)
Just now I would like to pray God would today give you the grace to star a
new day and a new life. Let's pray.
2. It is amazing how much the attitude of our parents
affects ours. Sometimes we mirror the attitude of our parents; other times we
purposely take the opposite view.
3. You might draw a
+/- chart on the board. As you discuss, make a note of the costs and benefits of
4. It is easy for some to look down at those
who drink too much. We have these discussions over a pot-luck dinner where we
violate this command of God. I know-I have been there, done that!
5. Not completely. Take the phrase in moderation. For example, we are not
committed to Christ in moderation. That is being luke-warm, which is distasteful
6. Technically speaking, no. It is a command
against hanging out with those who drink too much. We will get to the sin of
drinking too much in a moment. If we hang out with people who drink too much, we
will join them before long. Social pressure is not just for teens. We are all
heavily influenced by our peers. That is why, in
You Can Double Your Class In Two Years or Less I say, "If we love them,
they will come, and they will come to love our Lord." Our social influence can
be used positively for good, just as the world's is used negatively for bad.
7. Life is hard. Drinking is one of many things that can dull the pain of
life, at least for a moment.
8. The short answer is,
we represent God to him. We be to him grace and truth.
A classic jump ball question. It is intended to created discussion among the
members of the group.