Others reduce it to acts of willpower or decisions. The reason usually given for this reduction is that love is commanded in the Bible, and people say that if it is commanded, you have to be able to do it no matter how you feel. In other words, since love is commanded (Matthew 22:37), then it must be a decision, not anything deeper and outside our immediate control like an affection or emotion.
But the problem with this reasoning is that it contradicts the Bible. Lots of things are commanded in the Bible that are not mere decisions and are indeed outside our immediate control. For example, joy is commanded (Psalm 100:2; Philippians 4:4); as are hope (Psalm 42:5), fear (Luke 12:5), zeal (Romans 12:11), grief (James 4:9), desire (1 Peter 2:2), tenderheartedness (Ephesians 4:32), brokenness and contrition (Psalm 51:17), brotherly affection (Romans 12:10), and gratitude (Colossians 3:15).
It simply is not true that if something is commanded, it must be a simple act of will lying in our power to do it. This, of course, is offensive to people who deny the deadening effects of original sin. But for those who believe that original sin brought a horrendous hardness and deadness and moral blindness to the human race, then it is not so surprising that the commands of God come to people who cannot simply do them by their own power. Our will is morally and spiritually flawed. Nevertheless we are responsible to do the commandments of God. The moral corruption that cripples us does not relieve us of our responsibility to do what it is right and good to do. “Moses summoned all Israel and said to them, ‘You have seen all that the LORD did before your eyes in the land of Egypt…. Yet to this day the LORD has not given you a heart to know, nor eyes to see, nor ears to hear'” (Deuteronomy 29:2, 4). Seeing they did not see. Nevertheless, in spite of this moral blindness and deafness, Israel was responsible to “keep the words of this covenant to do them” (verse 9).A Godward Life: Book Two: Savoring the Supremacy of God in All of Life.