The best small groups are those that refuse to embrace the clutter. Instead they find creative ways to make sure their souls have enough space for God and one another by prioritizing the value of “hanging out”—that is, doing nothing together. This is where discipleship happens. When we hang out, we can observe how another person loves God and others in the regular stuff of life. We can then see where we’re lacking in love, which pushes us to the feet of God to get it from him. The way of Jesus is full of eating together, conversations about interests, and time together when we’re not looking at the clock. In this context we see God working through others and drawing us along the way.
M. Scott Boren, Leading Small Groups in the Way of Jesus (Westmont, IL: InterVarsity Press, 2015).