A WHILE BACK I MADE A SOLEMN VOW THAT I WOULD STOP obsessing over texts and emails. I decided that anytime I heard the bing indicating I had received a message, I would not feel the urgency to check immediately. And when I did check, I would not reread and reread what the other person wrote. I would then not rewrite and rewrite my response. My digital resolution lasted . . . well, honestly, I don’t think I ever stopped obsessing over texts and emails. Not only did my vow not last; I didn’t even start!
The problem with how we attack our problems is that we go after the problem. We focus solely on the behavior by making a commitment to start or stop doing something.
You’ve done this too, right? You’ve decided, perhaps even declared, that you were going to change.
- I’m going to quit smoking on January 1st! This year I’m going to eat healthy and exercise every day!
- I’m going to stop dating anyone who is mean to me. In fact, I’m not going to date at all!
- I’m tired of wasting my time on social media and comparing my life with everyone else’s.
- I’m getting off for good this time! That’s it. This is the last time. I will never look at pornography again!
- I’m not going to exaggerate or lie or gossip to get attention or feel better about myself. No more!
- I’m going to read the Bible every morning this whole year!
Whatever your vow was, how did it go?
I would guess not well. Why? Behavior modification doesn’t work, because the focus is only on modifying behavior. You don’t get to the root of the problem, which is the thought that produces the behavior. To be more specific, the problem is the neural pathway that leads to the behavior.
Craig Groeschel Winning the War in Your Mind
We have just released a new Bible Study on the topic Winning the War in Your Mind
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