Sunday School Lesson #2: Strengthening Families by
Notes to the teacher:
Questions are ready-to-use, out-of-the box lessons. Footnotes are
explanations to you as to what I am getting at.
Don't feel an
obligation to ask all these questions. I have intentionally provided more
questions than you can use.
Get to the last questions. Push for
By way of
introduction, I'd like to ask you to open the book of Proverbs to the
chapter that corresponds to the day of the month you were born. Look for any
verses that speak to home life. Share with the group what you find.(1)
The Value of Peaceful Home Life
Proverbs 17:1. When is a dry crust of bread better than a steak dinner?
On a scale of one to ten, how would you rate the home that you grew up in,
where one is full of strife and ten is peace and quiet?
to you is a home with peace and quiet? Why is it important to you?
Besides peace and quiet, what else goes into a really great home?
you think there is an implication in this verse that peace and quiet and "a
dry crust" tend to go together? In other words, do poorer homes tend to have
more peace and quiet?
What would you say is the cause and effect
relationship between having money and having peace and quiet? Would you say
that money tends to add stress, that lack of money tends to add stress, or
is there any relationship at all?(2)
What are some lessons you have learned about maintaining peace and quiet in
Avoid Destructive Actions
One way to keep a happy family life is embodied in the
phrase, "Just don't do anything stupid." Without telling me any names or
anything, how many of you have known someone who threw away a good life by
doing something stupid?
Proverbs 6:32 teaches that the man who
commits adultery lacks judgement and ends up destroying himself. Let's talk
about lacking judgement. What is the person thinking who gets himself (or
herself) involved in an extra marital affair?
Imagine a man and
woman standing of the alter staring into each other's eyes. They express
deep love and commitment to each other. Fast forward the tape seven years.
Now he is in the arms of another woman. How does this happen? What are the
steps from A to Z?
How can we absolutely guarantee that this will
not happen to us?(3)
are the best steps we can take to prevent an affair?
Cultivate Constructive Actions
Proverbs 20:7; 31:10, 11, 28
As we read these four verses, look for adjectives that describe the
Do you think people who live a righteous life are
generally happier than those who do not?
What are the benefits of
living a righteous life?
What are the disadvantages to not living a
Proverbs 4:3 -
4; 22:6; 29:17
Do you tend to parent your children as you were
parented, or differently from the way you were parented?
4:4 suggests that we should teach our children the Bible. What are some
practical ways we can do this?
Do you think Proverbs 22:6 is a
guaranteed promise, or is it a proverb-- a statement of what normally
What is your
biggest frustration as a parent?
What are some methods of discipline
that are effective with your children?
Why do you think so many homes are in such trouble
What advice would you give to a young couple considering
starting a family?
If your spouse could change anything about you,
what would they change?
Let's pray and ask God to empower us to be
better husbands, wives, and parents. I'd like to ask several of you to voice
1. You might
point out that there are 31 chapters of Proverbs. This makes a nice daily
reading plan to read one chapter a day that corresponds to the day of the month.
2. There is a tendency to read this verse and assume a relationship that
does not necessarily exist. All things being equal, I think lack of money tends
to be more stressful than having money. The Bible does not teach that lack of
money and peace and quiet necessarily go together; he is only pointing
to the value of peace and quiet. How much better if you can have both money and
a peaceful home.
3. There are no guarantees. The best
assurance begins with the humility that, "This could happen to me." The next
most important thing is to keep a great marriage. A great marriage is the best
protection from adultery.
4. James Dobson and I think
it is a Proverb. That is, this is what normally happens. There are cases when
people do everything right and their children still turn out bad kids. This is
called living in a fallen world. Normally, however, you give children the right
training and they stay on the path.
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